How to Stop Feeling Not Good Enough and Finally Enhance Your Creativity Without Ever Facing Criticism

Hey Friends,

Today, we're diving into a topic that I think hits home for a lot of us: feeling not good enough. If you’ve ever battled this, trust me, you’re not alone. It’s something we’ve all faced, and today, I’m going to walk you through some tips, tools, and exercises that can help you move through those feelings—and not only that, but I’ll also share how you can enhance your creativity without ever having to face criticism again.

Let’s jump right in!

What Does "Feeling Not Good Enough" Look Like?

For me, not feeling good enough often shows up as comparison-itis and imposter syndrome. When I started this blog, I felt like a small fish in a big ocean. There are countless bloggers out there, many of whom are writing about the same things I am—femininity, masculine and feminine energies, and more. It felt overwhelming. I’d scroll through Instagram, looking at other blogs with their huge followings, polished content, and thriving businesses. It made me feel like I was late to the game, like I wasn’t “enough” to stand out.

Can you relate? Maybe it’s not about blogging for you, but those feelings can creep in around your career, body image, or even personal goals like starting a family. That voice in your head starts questioning why you’re not where others are, or why you haven’t achieved the things you thought you should by now. It’s tough. But we don’t have to live in that space.

The Root Cause of "Not Good Enough"

In my experience, the root of these feelings comes from two places: our programming and our own thoughts. Many of us have been conditioned to want certain things—like a successful career, a perfect body, or the “ideal” family setup. We’re surrounded by images and messages that tell us what we should be doing, what’s valuable, and what’s considered “enough.” And when our reality doesn’t match those ideals, we start feeling inadequate.

I’ve been there too. For example, I come from a culture that places a high value on marriage, but I’m divorced and have no plans of getting remarried. That choice didn’t come easy, but I’ve learned to love the decision I’ve made for myself. And that’s what it boils down to: we have to love and accept our decisions, even when they don’t match society’s expectations.

How Creativity Ties Into This

Here’s where the connection between creativity and self-worth becomes so important. When we feel “not good enough,” it impacts our creativity. We overthink, we doubt ourselves, and we end up not taking any action. But creativity is all about action! Whether it’s writing a blog, painting a picture, designing jewelry, or starting a project—it all requires us to create something from nothing.

Our thoughts create our feelings, our feelings drive our actions, and our actions shape our results. So if your thoughts are telling you that you’re not enough, it’s no surprise that you’re holding back from creating. You need to reframe those thoughts so you can show up and put your work into the world.

Steps to Start Feeling "Good Enough"

1. Become Aware of Your Emotions
   Awareness is the first step. Pay attention to how you’re feeling. Are you sad, overwhelmed, or stuck? Once you know how you feel, you can start to shift.

2. Identify the Thoughts Behind Those Feelings
   What are you thinking that’s making you feel this way? It might be a belief about yourself or a fear of criticism.

3. Shift Your Beliefs
   To change your feelings, you have to change your beliefs. If you’re feeling sad or inadequate, ask yourself: What would I need to believe about myself to feel excited or motivated instead? Start from there, and let that belief carry you into action.

My Personal Battle with Criticism

Criticism—both from others and from myself—has definitely impacted my creativity. When I started this blog, I constantly compared myself to others in the same space, thinking, “Who am I to be talking about feminine foundations?” But here’s the truth: none of those people were criticizing me. I was doing it to myself.

What we believe about ourselves creates our outcomes. So when you start to face criticism—whether it’s internal or external—recognize it for what it is: a chance to grow. It’s not something to run from, but something to reflect on and use as an opportunity to strengthen your self-worth.

Enhancing Your Creativity Without Criticism

Here’s a secret: You don’t have to let criticism, or the fear of it, stop you from creating. Here’s how to keep it at bay:

1. Create in a Safe Space
   Whether it’s a quiet corner of your home or a space online with like-minded people, find a place where you feel free to explore your creativity.

2. Be Your Own Biggest Cheerleader
   When you’re tempted to criticize yourself, flip the script. Look for the progress you’ve made and celebrate your wins, no matter how small.

3. Detach from Outcomes
   Not every creation needs to be perfect. Focus on the joy of creating, rather than the result.

I hope this post has given you some insight into how you can start moving through the feelings of “not good enough” and tap into your creative side. Remember, it’s not really about facing criticism—it's about changing the way we look at it. Criticism can become a tool for growth rather than something that holds you back. Here’s to embracing your creativity without fear!

Here’s to remembering unscripting is key, for living pleasurably.

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