3 Essential Things I Let Go of to Finally Find Flow in My Business
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Hey Friends,
In this manifesto, we explore the three major things I had to let go of to finally find flow in my business. This journey hasn’t been straightforward, and trust me, I’ve tried it all! From selling herbal teas to making jewelry, hosting podcasts, creating digital products, and even VA work—I've dipped my toes into every entrepreneurial pond, only to find myself back in the 9-to-5 grind more often than I'd like.
Then August 2024 arrived, and with it, a moment of revelation. I started my blog from a place of feeling overwhelmed, unfulfilled, and honestly, just over it. This blog was my outlet—a way to reconnect with myself, find more peace and pleasure, and savor the moments I’d been missing in the hustle. Little did I know it would also become my next business, though I was hesitant at first. But here I am, a few months in, and something feels different this time. I’m still here, feeling aligned and, dare I say it, excited!
So, how did I go from “throw everything at the wall and see what sticks” to finding a business I truly love? By letting go of three big things holding me back. I’ll share them with you today, along with some lessons learned along the way.
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1. Letting Go of the Need for Struggle = Worthiness
The first major thing I had to drop was the belief that if it came easily, I was probably doing something wrong. Historically, I’ve been the queen of overcomplicating things, as though if it wasn't hard, it wasn't "real" business. But this blog? It felt different from the start. The process of writing, creating graphics, and putting everything together came so naturally, and that was honestly a little unsettling.
There I was, thinking, Can it really be this easy? Is there a “catch”? But I had to let go of that thought. I had to accept that ease didn’t mean I was doing it wrong; it meant I was doing it right. Ease, peace, and pleasure—these were the new currencies of my success, and they had to replace the old mindset of struggle = worthiness.
For the first time, I allowed myself to embrace that flow. And let me tell you, there is something so freeing about realizing that your business doesn’t have to drain you to be meaningful.
2. Letting Go of the “Know-It-All” Syndrome
Another thing I had to release was the idea that I needed to have all the answers right now. This one was huge because, honestly, for a while, I thought I couldn't start anything new until I had a full, detailed map of how it would work and make money. I’d convinced myself that success came from having a clear, unchanging blueprint that would lead to financial freedom.
But let’s be real—nobody has it all figured out right off the bat. I think the idea that you have to know what you’re doing came from watching/listenng people who say you have to know what you want. I think you do need to know what you want your life to look like/how you want to feel, but the “how” you’re going to get it, well, you don’t need to know that.
We have to remember that everyone is speaking from their own beliefs and understandings. Just like me, they’re sharing from their own experiences and desires. So I dropped the need to know everything upfront and gave myself permission to explore what felt right at each stage. I started offering digital products I’d already created, then opened a membership, the Pleasure and Peace Portal, because I enjoyed making content for it. Soon after, I introduced affiliate marketing because that resonated more deeply with me than the membership model did. My blog's monetization plan became a flexible, evolving approach instead of a rigid, all-or-nothing path.
When I embraced a more “let’s see what feels right” approach, I allowed my intuition to guide me. And surprisingly, that felt more aligned than any pre-planned strategy ever had.
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3. Letting Go of the Comparison Trap
Comparison is the thief of joy, and it nearly stole my excitement for this blog. Social media can make it so easy to see other women who are building “big, big things”—the live coaching, massive programs, six-figure launches, you name it. And here I was, talking about peace, pleasure, and small, personal shifts on my blog, feeling like my offerings might seem, well, small.
But then I realized that impact isn’t measured by size; it’s measured by alignment. I don’t need to be the loudest or the flashiest to be impactful. I don’t need to be doing live coaching to serve those who need what I offer. I began to understand that everyone is on their own journey, at their own pace. Someone at “peg number three” on their path might need what I’m sharing just as much as someone else needs a massive coaching program.
Once I let go of the comparison trap, I stopped worrying that what I offered wasn’t “enough” or impactful. I could finally see that my unique voice was valuable just as it was—and that’s when I started feeling truly connected to my work.
Bonus Lesson: Embracing My Unique Process
Looking back, I’ve had my share of different ventures, each one teaching me something valuable. It’s taken over a decade of exploring and a good deal of trial and error, but I wouldn’t change a thing because all those experiments have led me here. And now, in building this blog, I’m leaning into my own process—a combination of affiliate marketing, digital products, (and anything else I feel drawn to) and writing that brings me peace and pleasure.
I even remembered a mantra I created for myself that I’m living by now: Share things. Get paid. Live pleasurably. (used to be Live Free, now Live Pleasurably) I know, it sounds so simple, but sometimes the best things are. This isn’t just a business anymore; it’s a lifestyle that feels good to live.
Final Thoughts
Building a business doesn’t have to feel heavy. When I look back on my journey, every venture taught me something essential, and every “failure” was really just a stepping stone to finally finding flow in my work. Now, my goal is to enjoy the process, live with peace and pleasure, and create in a way that feels aligned, not pressured.
So if you’re in the trenches right now, unsure of where to go or how to make it all come together, maybe ask yourself if there’s something you need to let go of. Do you believe it has to be hard to be meaningful? Do you think you need all the answers before you even begin? Are you holding yourself to someone else’s standard, thinking you’re not doing “enough”? Because I’m here to tell you, you are enough. Your desires are enough. Your unique journey is more than enough.
As I continue down this path, I’m embracing a new motto: Live pleasurably. And if this resonates with you, I hope you’ll join me on the journey.
Live pleasurably,
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